Not Getting What You Want? Read This.

Let’s talk about rejection. You’ve been there. I’ve been there. We all have.

You wanted something so badly – a job, a relationship, a dream project, an opportunity. You put in the effort, you planned, you showed up with your heart open and… boom. 

A no. A not now. A sorry, not for you.

And gosh, it stings.

It can feel heavy, like a punch to the gut. It can make us question our worth, our decisions, and even our place in the world.

Sometimes rejection makes us spiral: “Maybe I’m not good enough.” “Maybe I’m not meant for this.” “Maybe I should just give up.”

But before we go too deep into that hole, let’s slow down for a second and look at rejection from a different angle.

Rejection only exists when you’re in motion

Here’s something not many people think about: You only get rejected when you’re actually taking action.

If you’re applying for jobs, going on dates, sharing your ideas, launching that side hustle – guess what?

You’ve opened the door to rejection. Because you're in the game.

Now think about the times in your life when you felt the sting of rejection more often. Wasn’t it when you were going after things? When you were being brave and bold and putting yourself out there?

And the times when you weren’t getting rejected? Chances are, you weren’t doing much. You were playing it safe. Staying still.

So in a strange way, rejection is a weird little signpost that says: “Hey you! You’re alive. You’re trying. Keep going.”

Rejection isn’t personal – even though it feels super personal

Let’s clear this one up. Rejection feels personal. But most of the time, it’s not.

Say you applied for a job and didn’t get it. It’s tempting to go, “I’m not good enough.” But maybe… they needed someone with a different skill set. Maybe the boss had a candidate in mind already. Maybe you just weren’t the right fit for them.

That doesn’t mean you aren’t good. It just means they were looking for something different. Same with relationships. You could be wonderful – and still not the one that person is looking for right now.

Humans are all walking around with different needs, dreams, fears, and life paths. Rejection is often just a mismatch – not a statement about your value.

Rejection is a mirror – and sometimes, a mentor

Okay, yes, sometimes rejection hurts because it hits a truth. Like maybe… we could improve.

Didn’t get that job? Maybe you need to upskill, or work on how you show up in interviews. 

Didn’t land the client? Maybe your pitch needs more clarity. Got dumped? Maybe it's time to reflect on your patterns in relationships.

Rejection can be a growth prompt – asking you to stretch, upgrade, or shift. It’s not always fun, but it’s often gold if you’re willing to listen.

Ask yourself:

• What is this rejection showing me about myself?

• Where can I grow?

• What can I do differently next time?

  
  

Growth isn’t always about doing more – sometimes it’s about softening, healing, or seeing things with a fresh perspective.

Bold lives are built on brave rejections

Here’s the truth: If you want to live boldly, you’ve got to be okay with getting rejected. A lot.

People living big, meaningful lives aren’t getting yeses all the time. They’re just not letting the no’s stop them. They’re pitching ideas and getting silence. They’re launching projects and getting crickets. They’re dating and getting ghosted. And they keep going anyway.

Because they know: The only way to get the life you dream of is to risk hearing no – again and again – until you get the yes that matters.

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “The credit belongs to the person in the arena.” The ones sweating, trying, failing, getting up again. They’re the ones that grow. They’re the ones that change the world – or at the very least, their world.

How to train your brain to be okay with rejection

Alright, so how do we actually get better at handling rejection?

Here are a few tips:

1. Normalise it. Tell yourself: “This is part of the process.” Literally say it out loud if it helps. It’s not a detour – it is the road.

2. Detach your worth. You are not the rejection. You are not the result. You are worthy because you exist. That’s it. That’s the whole list.

3. Use hypnosis or guided visualisation. This is powerful stuff. In hypnosis, you can rewire how your brain responds to setbacks. You can visualise yourself moving through rejection with calm, self-trust, and resilience. 

Try imagining yourself hearing a “no” – and instead of shrinking, you breathe, smile, and say, “Okay. I trust something better is coming.” Practice this regularly, and your nervous system will slowly believe it’s true.

4. Celebrate the rejection. Sounds weird, I know. But every time you get rejected, it means you took a shot. Clap for that. Toast yourself. You’re in the arena, remember?

Worthiness is your birthright

This part is important, so lean in: You were born worthy.

No rejection can touch that. Not the job you didn’t get. Not the person who didn’t choose you. Not the project that flopped.

Your worth isn’t something you earn. It’s not conditional. It doesn’t get smaller when someone says no.

You are enough. You have always been enough. And you always will be.

Rejection is redirection

Let’s get real – how many times has a rejection led you to something even better?

• You didn’t get that job, and now you’ve got one you actually love.

• That person left, and now you’re in the healthiest relationship of your life.

• That “no” gave you time to start something that’s now your passion.

  
  

Rejection often feels like a door slamming in your face. But what if it’s actually life gently nudging you elsewhere? Somewhere better. Somewhere more you.

You might not see it straight away. 

But with time, space, and a little hindsight… it all makes sense.

Wrapping it up

So, here’s the heart of it:

Rejection sucks. We won’t pretend it doesn’t. But it’s not the enemy. It’s actually a sign you’re showing up.

It’s a teacher. A mirror. A redirection. And above all – it doesn’t define your worth.

If you want to live boldly, rejection is a non-negotiable. It’s the price of playing big.

So take the shot. Ask the question. Launch the thing. Say how you feel. Apply. Try. Leap.

And if the answer is no?

 Smile anyway.

 You’re in motion.

 You’re in the arena.

 And that’s where the magic happens.

Ready to turn rejection into redirection and start living boldly?

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