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You are choosing every single day. Even when you think you are standing still. Even when you say “now is not the time.” Even when you avoid the decision altogether. Every action you take is taking you somewhere. And every action you do not take is taking you somewhere too. What you are not changing, you are choosing. The real question is simple and confronting.Is the life your choices are creating the life you actually want to live? Most women don’t realise this because choo

I used to wake up with a tight feeling in my chest, replaying yesterday’s conversations before my feet even touched the floor. My body was already braced for the day ahead, my mind scanning for what I might have said wrong, what I should have done differently, what could go wrong next. From the outside, everything looked fine. I was capable, responsible, getting things done. Inside, I felt constantly switched on, alert, and tired in a way that sleep never seemed to fix. Morni

If you are feeling a little off after the holidays, you are not broken, lazy or unmotivated. You are human. Every year, this happens to so many high achieving women. December rolls in with celebrations, summer energy, social events, family time, travel, late nights and relaxed routines. It is joyful, connective and often deeply nourishing. And then January arrives. Suddenly, the structure that once held everything together feels shaky. Your routines feel foreign. Your focus f

There is a quiet truth that many of us sense but struggle to name. Some people love you. And some people love the way you make them feel. At first glance, those two can look identical. Both might say they care. Both might show up. Both might have history with you. Both might even say “I just want what’s best for you”. But when life asks you to grow, to change, to choose yourself, the difference becomes impossible to ignore. This distinction matters more than we realise. It sh

I want to talk about something that so many high achieving women feel, but don’t always say out loud. The longing for connection. We are capable women. We build careers, move countries, handle challenges, figure things out. We know how to be independent. We know how to survive, and more than that, we know how to succeed. And yet, no matter how capable we are, there is something that success alone never quite fills. Connection. From a neuroscience perspective, this makes compl

Christmas and the end of the year have a funny way of slowing us down. Even the most driven, capable women feel it. The nervous system senses a pause in the collective rhythm and suddenly old emotions, memories and questions rise to the surface. If you are feeling more reflective, more tender or even a little unsettled, nothing has gone wrong. This is biology and wisdom working together. Why This Time of Year Feels So Powerful From a neuroscience perspective, the brain is a p

Every year, it happens. You set your intentions, do your inner work, meditate, journal, and tell yourself you’ve grown.   You’ve got this. You’re calm, self-aware, and unshakable. And then, it’s family time. You walk through the front door, and suddenly, you’re not the grounded adult with great boundaries anymore. You’re twelve again, sitting at the dinner table, explaining your life choices to people who still see you through an old lens. That’s the thing about family: they

Have you ever caught yourself spiralling after a simple comment  replaying a conversation in your head, analysing the tone, wondering what they really  meant? We’ve all been there. It’s easy to believe you’re worried about what people think of you. But you’re not. You’re worried about what you  start thinking of yourself when you imagine what they think. That’s the part that hurts not their opinion, but the inner noise that comes after. The Real Trigger Let’s say a colleague

Have you ever noticed that when you’re calm and centred, things just seem to fall into place? But when you’re stressed or overwhelmed, everything starts to feel like a struggle. The emails pile up, small issues turn into big ones, and even simple tasks feel heavy. That’s not luck or coincidence. It’s neuroscience. When your nervous system is dysregulated, your brain interprets everything as a potential threat. It moves you into survival mode, which means your energy goes into

Have you ever heard the saying, “If you didn’t get it, it’s because you didn’t want it enough”?It sounds motivating at first, but when you really think about it, it’s merciless. It implies that if you didn’t achieve something, you lacked willpower, discipline, or drive. That you wanted an easy life, a dream without effort, and therefore you didn’t deserve it. But that’s not how success works. The truth is, it’s not always about how much you want  it. It’s about how you work  

There was a time when I thought I could shop my way into happiness. When I was working seventy hours a week as a chef, I would spend my precious free time buying clothes that made me feel like I had a vibrant social life outside of work. I imagined myself wearing those outfits in beautiful places, surrounded by friends, laughing, and feeling carefree. But deep down, I didn’t realise that I would never actually be in those places. I was always working, exhausted, and chasing a

Every December, I see the same thing happen. High-achieving women hit the end of the year running on fumes. You’ve been managing work, family, expectations, and the invisible emotional load that never seems to end. You tell yourself, “I’ll think about next year after I rest.” It makes sense. You’re tired. You’ve done a lot. You deserve that break.But here’s the truth: if you wait until January to set your goals, you’ll be planning from a numb  place, not a knowing  one. Becau

Let’s be honest, vision boards have been around for a while. They’ve been called everything from “woo woo magic” to “manifestation tools,” but here’s the truth: there’s serious science behind why they work. And once you understand that, you’ll never look at your vision board the same way again. What’s a Vision Board, Really? A vision board is more than a collage of goals or Pinterest-worthy dreams. It’s a visual map of your future, a daily reminder of who you’re becoming and

Ever find yourself sitting at your desk, tabs open everywhere, half-done tasks staring back at you, and this tiny voice whispering, “I should be doing more” ?Yet, you’re already running on empty. I know that place too well. Back when I was juggling clients, content, events, and trying to do all the right things to grow my business, my mind was constantly on. Even when I wasn’t working, I was working, replaying conversations, planning next steps, or worrying I was missing some

Ever have those days when you wake up with the best intentions but by 10am you’re already overthinking every decision? You start strong, tell yourself today will be different, and then one tiny thing happens and your confidence disappears faster than your morning coffee. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. Confidence isn’t something we’re born with. It’s something we train into our brain and body, one small, intentional action at a time. The truth is, it’s not about making big

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