What the heck is wrong with me? That was one of my most used questions.

I promised myself so many times: I’d take care of my health, meditate to calm my anxiety, go to the gym, eat well, drink less, control my temper, stop snapping at people, be more mindful of my actions.

And yet, I’d end up eating Doritos for breakfast, rushing with racing thoughts, downing a bottle of wine “just to relax,” skipping the gym, replaying fights in my head, and running around like a headless chicken without finding solutions.

All I wanted was peace of mind. To feel like I was doing something right, not failing at life. That’s when the question would hit me again:

What the heck is wrong with me? Why can’t I just be the person I’m trying to be?

I thought it was all about willpower. But clearly, I didn’t have enough. And if others could do it, why couldn’t I?

Here’s the thing: our brains are wired to repeat what we’ve done long enough to become patterns. Patterns feel safe because they’re familiar. Even the emotions that come with them, frustration, anger, pain, become part of that safety.

So, every “failure” wasn’t really failure to my brain. It was just me playing out the same patterns, feeling the same emotions, and ending up in the same messy place.

When I started studying hypnotherapy, I realised most of these patterns came from childhood and early experiences. No wonder they were so deeply ingrained. Honestly, if I got a dollar every time I repeated them, I’d be rich.

That might sound discouraging, like change would take a whole new lifetime. But the good news is: it doesn’t.

Once I recognised the patterns, I realised I could break them. I saw how much of my life had been on autopilot, and worse, I was just a passenger without a map.

I knew I wanted out, but I didn’t know where “out” was. I didn’t know what true happiness or purpose even looked like. That became my starting point.

To move forward, I needed perspective. I needed someone else’s eyes to show me what that life could be, and how to get there.

So, I set my destination and surrounded myself with support and accountability. Because I knew my brain would try to drag me back into its “safe mode.”

That’s where my coach and hypnotherapist came in. She was my Google Maps, guiding me to the next step, rerouting me when I got lost, keeping me on track. And most importantly, giving me the chance to repeat new behaviours until they finally felt safe, with positive reinforcement to back them up.

Could I have done it alone? Maybe. But it would have taken much longer. I’d probably still be wandering around, getting lost again and again.

That’s what knowledge plus accountability does: it fast-tracks your results.

I’d already spent too much time on the wrong road, autopiloting through a life that didn’t bring me joy or peace. So, I made the choice to take the wheel, set my GPS, and head toward my dream life.

And here’s what I want you to remember: when you look for help, it could be a teacher, a friend, a mentor, a coach, or a therapist. The important thing is that this person knows the way and has the ability to take you there. Once you find someone who genuinely has your best interest at heart, you can trust that you won’t stay stuck. You’ll get there faster and with more ease.

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