Still Waiting to Feel Ready? Here’s the Truth That Set Me Free.

There was a time I thought I needed to have everything figured out before I made a move.

I thought I had to feel 100% confident, know the full plan, and get approval from at least three close friends and a psychic before I could change my life.

Spoiler: that moment never came.

What actually happened was... I got tired. 

Tired of pretending I was fine. Tired of waiting. Tired of feeling like my life was OK on the outside but not aligned on the inside.

So instead of feeling ready, I had to get willing.

I wasn’t ready when I started changing my life.

I didn’t feel ready to change careers. I didn’t feel ready to show up online. I definitely didn’t feel ready to tell people, “Hey, I’m a hypnotherapist and coach now — let me help you shift your life!”

But I was willing.

Willing to try. Willing to feel awkward. Willing to be misunderstood. Willing to get it wrong. Willing to feel scared and still keep going.

And that willingness? It changed everything. Not overnight. But step by step, it brought me back home to myself.

Why do we stay stuck even when we know we want more?

Because it’s not just about lack of motivation or laziness — it’s much deeper than that. It’s fear. And it shows up in these three big ways:

1. Lack of clarity

You tell yourself, “I just don’t know what I want yet.” But deep down? Most of the time, you do know.

You're just scared of what it might mean if you admit it. You’re scared of the ripple effects.

It’s safer to stay foggy. Safe, but frustrating.

I used to tell myself I needed more time to decide. I needed more research. Another course. Another sign. But what I really needed was to admit to myself that the life I was living wasn’t aligned anymore.

Clarity doesn’t always arrive with a big spotlight moment. Sometimes it comes from quietly saying: “This isn’t working anymore. I don’t know exactly where I’m going, but I know I can’t stay here.”

2. Anxiety about change

Let’s be honest: even good change is uncomfortable.

Our brains are wired for familiarity, not freedom. So when you start thinking about leaving your job, starting something new, setting a boundary, or breaking a pattern — your nervous system kicks up a storm.

Thoughts like:

• What if I fail?

• What if I regret this?

• What if people don’t understand me anymore?

• What if I lose everything I’ve worked for?

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The thing is, fear doesn’t mean you’re on the wrong path. It just means you’re stepping outside your comfort zone. And that’s where growth lives.

What helped me most was learning to feel safe in the discomfort. Not trying to erase the fear — just not letting it drive the car anymore.

3. Fear of outgrowing your life

This one’s tender.

We don’t talk enough about the emotional cost of personal growth.

Because growth isn’t just about shiny goals and journaling affirmations. It’s also about letting go. Of identities. Of roles. Of relationships that once fit, but don’t anymore.

I was afraid that if I became my true self — bolder, more honest, more free — I wouldn’t belong. That the people I loved might not understand me anymore.

And in some cases… I was right.

There were people I drifted from. There were moments when I felt alone.

But you know what?

I also found deeper connection with those who truly saw me. I made space for relationships that were more aligned, more nourishing, more real. And I realised: I wasn’t losing myself — I was finding her.

OK, so how do you move forward when you don’t feel ready?

Here’s what helped me — and what I now see helping so many of the people I work with:

1. Get radically honest.

Ask yourself: “If I wasn’t scared or trying to please anyone... what would I actually want?”

Sometimes we think we’re confused, but we’re just scared of the truth.

It’s OK if the answer is messy. It’s OK if it changes. But tell yourself the truth, even just in your journal.

Honesty is the starting point of any real shift.

2. Support your nervous system.

You can’t think clearly or make aligned decisions when your body is in a stress loop.

Your nervous system needs to feel safe enough to try something new.

Simple things help more than you think:

• Slow, intentional breathing

• Movement or walks without your phone

• Journaling your fears (get them out of your head)

• Hypnosis or meditation to rewire anxious thoughts

• Talking to someone who sees the version of you you're becoming

  
  

When your body feels safer, your mind gets quieter. That’s when clarity sneaks in.

 3. Make peace with the grief of growth.

Sometimes personal growth means outgrowing things — and yes, that can hurt.

Let yourself grieve the old version of you. The comfortable patterns. The people you hoped would understand. The life that once felt like home.

You’re allowed to feel sad and still move forward. You’re allowed to miss what you’re letting go of. You’re allowed to honour the past while stepping boldly into your future.

Growth isn’t clean. It’s messy and emotional and full of contradictions. But it’s also beautiful. Liberating. Worth it.

4. Take one bold step. Just one.

Not ten. Not the whole plan. Just one.

When I was stuck in fear, the best thing I did was take tiny, bold actions before I felt “ready.”

• Saying the scary truth to a friend

• Declining something that didn’t feel aligned

• Posting something honest online (and sweating about it after)

• Booking a session, a course, a trip that stretched me

Each time I did something bold, my confidence grew. Not because I felt ready — but because I showed myself I was capable.

And now?

Now I’m living the life I used to only daydream about.

It’s not perfect — I still have fears, doubts, and very human days. But I wake up feeling proud. Fulfilled. Deeply connected to who I am. And excited about what’s next.

Because one day, I dared to go for it.

And that made all the difference.

I get to help people every day. I work in alignment with my soul. I feel joy, freedom, purpose. And most of all, I feel like I’m finally filling my part in this world — doing what I was always meant to do.

I don’t think we were meant to just exist, tick boxes, or stay small to keep everyone comfortable. We were made to live. Boldly, imperfectly, and with heart.

So if you’re still waiting to feel ready?

Maybe this is your sign that you don’t have to.

 Maybe you just have to be willing.

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